The Fine Art of Disciplining your children<\/h1><\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tDiscipline is to impart knowledge, values, and skills. It is a way of life and a golden road to success in whatever you do. Inculcating discipline right from an early age helps children pick up the ideal form of following rules set by the family.<\/p>\n
The Role of Rules<\/strong><\/p>\nEvery family is unique and has its own inimitable way of life. Family dynamics play an important role in instilling discipline as a way of life. For the smooth functioning of a family, values, culture and way of life stand as a strong foundation. They provide a nurturing environment and establish unwritten rules for interaction. These rules may range from minor details like \u2018washing hands before eating\u2019 to consequential ones like \u2018No Lying\u2019. Thus the rules are universal to every member of the family and not just to the children.<\/p>\n
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However, one must differentiate between family value systems and personal lifestyle choices. A misunderstanding here may result in the harshness of discipline. For example, the Head of the Family may want everyone else to behave the same way he behaves. This is not universal. This is personal to one person.\u00a0 Many times discipline is often associated with punishments and control, leaving aside the power of positive discipline and influence of reinforcements.<\/p>\n
Discipline is the pattern that helps the child fit into the real world happily and efficiently. It forms a foundation for the development of the child\u2019s own self-discipline. Productive and positive discipline is about teaching and guiding children, to follow some collectively decided rules and systems and not just compel them to abide.\u00a0 As with all other interventions aimed at pointing out unacceptable behaviour, the child should always know that the parent loves and supports him or her. Trust as a vital aspect between parent and child should be maintained and continuously built upon.<\/p>\n
Positive discipline strategies to focus on<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Increasing desirable behaviors instead of merely decreasing undesirable behaviors through punishment.<\/li>\n
- To give emphasis to the importance of making positive changes in the child\u2019s environment to improve the behaviour.<\/li>\n
- Such changes may involve the use of Positive reinforcements like appreciation, rewards etc.<\/li>\n
- Live the positive change to become a role model for the children.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Here are some of the rules to be maintained while imparting discipline:<\/p>\n
\n- Set discipline rules as a family together<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Involve every member of the family to choose and decide the discipline guidelines. Each family is unique and therefore has an exclusive set of discipline rules and guidelines. Involve children too while discussing and implementing the discipline rules and guidelines. This teaches a set of responsibility within children.<\/p>\n
\n- Love and Discipline are inseparable<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Any Knowledge, skill or value taught with a lot of love and affection is recorded forever in the memory lanes.\u00a0 Children in a crisis first recollect the instructions given by parents. This helps them deal with the situations effectively and learn life lessons.<\/p>\n
\n- Discipline Constructively<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Use simple words and a voice that is authoritative but not bossy. The situation was permitting, say \u201cplease do this,\u201d more often than \u201cdon\u2019t do that!\u201d Help children understand what constructive criticism is and how it should be dealt with.<\/p>\n
\n- Discipline Consistently<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Do not let the child away with a behavioral lapse at one time & punish the next time. This will confuse him & weaken your authority. This will also send wrong messages to the child and subsequently witness tantrums and weaning.<\/p>\n
\n- Explain why rules must be followed<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Instead of saying \u201cbecause I told you so\u201d, explain the rationale behind your decisions and regulations. But be sure to make it brief. Children usually don\u2019t like long explanations. With the reasons explained the child would be in a better position to not only obey but to absorb the behaviour & make it his own.<\/p>\n
\n- Never demean or embarrass children<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Discipline is not meant to shame or embarrass. Treat the child gently and discipline him in private. From time to time, put yourself in his shoes and remember those times when as a child you were disciplined and how you felt about it.<\/p>\n
Discipline is to impart knowledge, values, and skills. It is a way of life and a golden road to success in whatever you do. Inculcating discipline right from an early age helps children pick up the ideal form of following rules set by the family.<\/p>\n
The Role of Rules<\/strong><\/p>\n Every family is unique and has its own inimitable way of life. Family dynamics play an important role in instilling discipline as a way of life. For the smooth functioning of a family, values, culture and way of life stand as a strong foundation. They provide a nurturing environment and establish unwritten rules for interaction. These rules may range from minor details like \u2018washing hands before eating\u2019 to consequential ones like \u2018No Lying\u2019. Thus the rules are universal to every member of the family and not just to the children.<\/p>\n However, one must differentiate between family value systems and personal lifestyle choices. A misunderstanding here may result in the harshness of discipline. For example, the Head of the Family may want everyone else to behave the same way he behaves. This is not universal. This is personal to one person.\u00a0 Many times discipline is often associated with punishments and control, leaving aside the power of positive discipline and influence of reinforcements.<\/p>\n Discipline is the pattern that helps the child fit into the real world happily and efficiently. It forms a foundation for the development of the child\u2019s own self-discipline. Productive and positive discipline is about teaching and guiding children, to follow some collectively decided rules and systems and not just compel them to abide.\u00a0 As with all other interventions aimed at pointing out unacceptable behaviour, the child should always know that the parent loves and supports him or her. Trust as a vital aspect between parent and child should be maintained and continuously built upon.<\/p>\n Positive discipline strategies to focus on<\/strong><\/p>\n Here are some of the rules to be maintained while imparting discipline:<\/p>\n Involve every member of the family to choose and decide the discipline guidelines. Each family is unique and therefore has an exclusive set of discipline rules and guidelines. Involve children too while discussing and implementing the discipline rules and guidelines. This teaches a set of responsibility within children.<\/p>\n Any Knowledge, skill or value taught with a lot of love and affection is recorded forever in the memory lanes.\u00a0 Children in a crisis first recollect the instructions given by parents. This helps them deal with the situations effectively and learn life lessons.<\/p>\n Use simple words and a voice that is authoritative but not bossy. The situation was permitting, say \u201cplease do this,\u201d more often than \u201cdon\u2019t do that!\u201d Help children understand what constructive criticism is and how it should be dealt with.<\/p>\n Do not let the child away with a behavioral lapse at one time & punish the next time. This will confuse him & weaken your authority. This will also send wrong messages to the child and subsequently witness tantrums and weaning.<\/p>\n Instead of saying \u201cbecause I told you so\u201d, explain the rationale behind your decisions and regulations. But be sure to make it brief. Children usually don\u2019t like long explanations. With the reasons explained the child would be in a better position to not only obey but to absorb the behaviour & make it his own.<\/p>\n Discipline is not meant to shame or embarrass. Treat the child gently and discipline him in private. From time to time, put yourself in his shoes and remember those times when as a child you were disciplined and how you felt about it.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n\n
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