Dussehra: The story forward…Victory over negative emotions

Dussehra or Vijayadashmi, a popular Hindu festival is celebrated all over India.  It is believed that on this day Lord Rama killed the demon King Ravana and rescued his abducted wife, Sita. This day symbolises the victory of good over evil. Dussehra is observed differently in different parts of the country depending on the legend believed in each region.


Nuclear families, away from ancestral homes coupled with fast-paced lifestyles, at times keep us away from following our age-old traditions and festivals. And the questions that usually arise: Are we Celebrating Festivals, the Right Way with our Children? Are we engrossed in ourselves and preoccupied most of the times? Are our children deviating from our traditions, cultures and festivals? Parents, pause for a moment and ponder for a while!

Festivals are the best time to impart cultural values to children. If the deeper meaning and significance of each festival is not revealed to the child, they will grow up not realizing the true meaning and may follow tradition blindly and not wholeheartedly. Imbibing traditional and cultural values in a child’s mind is a vital aspect of parenting. With every passing year, we can tell our children the different and varied cultures across the country and the globe at large. Children in India can celebrate Halloween too, with Dussehra and Diwali. Similarly, the western countries also host a lot of festivals followed by the eastern countries.

The uniqueness about Celebrating Festivals is that

  • It promotes an understanding and acceptance of other cultures, rituals, traditions. On an earth where intolerance and religious disputes are ubiquitous, explaining children about different cultures and their festivals help build a more peaceful world.


  • It is not just about the rituals we follow, but also the history and the values associated with each festival.
  • Following our rituals and festivals are simple ways to ensure children become responsible society members, moral values are imbibed swiftly. The history and legend surrounding the celebrations are a great source of value building which kids will pick up. Namely:


  • Honesty
  • Respect
  • Discipline
  • Kindness
  • Forgiveness
  • Courtesy
  •  Empathy
  •  Sharing
  • Gratitude
  • Patience
  • Self-reliance
  • Loyalty

Like Diwali is a festival of Lights, Holi is a festival of colours; Dussera is a festival of Victory. The celebrations of this festival express freedom, sovereignty or Independence. In today’s world we might not be ruled by invaders or colonized, but humans have enslaved themselves to specific misbehavior or negative emotions. Fighting with the enemies within us is a huge wrestle each one us of stumble upon. Being victorious in defeating our negative emotions can help us be a better person/ a better parent. In turn, children also pick up skills of managing emotions. Affirmations act as a vital tool to deal with negative emotions. Affirmations are strong messages to our mind. They are positive statements that help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes.

Here are 10 Affirmations for this Festive Season for Victory over evil thoughts, feelings or behaviours:

  1. I am free from anger and let the joys of life flow through me.
  2. I stay away from Judging People.
  3. I am free from all my Grudges.
  4. I forgive myself and everyone.
  5. I accept myself and every one as they are.
  6. I love myself and everyone fully and unconditionally.
  7. I let go all my feelings of Jealousy & Guilt.
  8. I set free all my Fears.
  9. I offer Gratitude for all the things I have and all which I will get.
  10. There is an abundance of love and affection in the universe for all.


Ensure that you take professional help while dealing with negative emotions. They help you in understanding the challenges you face and design and customize affirmations as per requirements. Don’t hesitate to meet a professional and do consider professional help.

Festivals are essential for all of us and special for children as they teach about how to live in a community and celebrate and share each other’s happiness. They show us how to share with the less fortunate and be thankful for our blessings. Festivals can help us teach empathy and kindness to children, while also enhancing their knowledge and understanding of different cultures and communities.

Wishing you all a very Happy Dussehra!

Medha Kedar Tonapi,

‘Health in your Mind.’

Psychotherapist, Life Coach,

Parent Coach.


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  1. Kedarnath October 19, 2018

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